Dr. Beth's Songs Children Want Their Parents To Hear - Zero to Three

These songs give voice to the emotional needs of children as they progress through their developmental stages. It is a fun-filled, playful way to get valuable points across to parents that affirm what a child is feeling. This is critical to the creation of a healthy emotional being.

This musical content is written for the adult to consider now in parenting one-self and one's children.

While the child, will understand some of the messages now and enjoy the musical melodies, many of the messages will offer great opportunities for discussion for years to come. Co-author Barbara Halbert, Masters in Psychology, Childhood Education, and Music.

"Dr. Beth's energy and enthusiasm is contagious, and her music is an inspiration to children and parents everywhere. It is filled with terrific lessons of courage about being open and honest with your feelings, and opens the door for more and improved communications between adults and children, all in a fun and lighthearted manner. Dr. Beth, in her own creative style, is paving the way to a brighter tomorrow!" Michelle Fuller

Messy Time    

Children learn, grow and develop through exploration and play. It is through acceptance of creativity that children and parents are given room to flourish. There are times to set boundaries and teach social norms and other times to allow messiness. Have you found time to let your hair down, get wild and crazy, be silly, laugh, play, and get messy? Be careful…you just might have fun!

Setting Boundaries    

Setting boundaries and structures is essential for a child’s sense of security and safety. As a parent, how do you know when to say no? How do you know which battle to pick? It is important your child learns how to set boundaries with others as well. They learn this through your consistent modeling. If your boundaries are determined by what you consciously value, then your child will learn your values.

Brain Growth    

The brain’s growth is exponential during the first three years of life and again during adolescence. It has recently been found that our brains are not fully developed until our mid-twenties. The brain’s synaptic connections are created through stimulation and exploration. Trial and error are essential for brain development. If I am afraid to make mistakes, look bad, or get in trouble, I limit my brain’s opportunity for growth.

Floating in the Womb    

The communication process begins when the baby is in the womb. Some say this is where self-love begins. Worst case, you love and talk to your tummy and feel silly. Best case, you actually give your child the beginnings of self-love, self-esteem, and a connected relationship with you.

Surprise    

Babies learn where they end and you begin through interaction, stimulation, and exploration. Your face is their very favorite place, toy, stimulation. Parents and children of all cultures have different versions of peek-a-boo. Hide and seek, coming and going, connection and separation, individuation and relationship are a lifelong balance, journey, process. Let the play begin and never end…

Space And Time    

Self-soothing and self-regulation can never be learned too early. I learn how to soothe myself by you being there and by learning you (my world) are a safe place. Your face is wonderful but sometimes a good thing can wear me out. Is it okay for me to look away, play with my own feet, or take a nap, etc.? Will you still be there when I look back at you? Of course adults also need space and time. Alone time is essential. We need time to breathe and relax. What do you do to create your own space and time?

Coming and Going    

What does it look like to a baby when the parent is coming and going? This process is one of ways the child explores the circle of life. Where do I end? Where do you begin? Who am I in relation to you? Who am I separate from you and what are my boundaries? How do I interact with you and the world? Your part is keeping me safe and giving me plenty of space to explore.

Feeling Game    

Body awareness, movement, massage, and self-love begin as soon as you begin life. Our bodies are our vehicles for life. What a gift to meet, fall in love, and care for your body in a loving way for a lifetime. Each body is perfect and divine. It is through love and self-care that we stay that way.

Good Question    

Do you sometimes want to pull your hair out because your children ask so many questions? And do you sometimes wonder how to respond? Welcome to the human race. Children asking questions is a normal, healthy stage of development. It really is okay if you don’t know the answer to all your children’s questions. You do not have to give the right answer or any answer at all. You could turn the tables and let your child think, learn, and then "figure it out together".

Blending Families    

Blending families begins when my family history and your family history merge into one. This becomes really interesting (fun) when your family history includes children, and their parents with new spouses. The larger the families to blend, the greater the challenge and opportunity for richness of life…if you choose to accept it.

Compassion is the Key to Life    

The compassion I’m referring to here is compassion for the self. The child is born needing love, care, and soothing at all hours of the day and night. Sometimes the parent is emotionally and physically depleted and has nothing to give to the child. It is in this moment the love, tolerance, patience, acceptance, and compassion you can give yourself is essential. If you have to give when you are depleted, you may blame the child for your emptiness and exhaustion. The child then feels they are causing the depletion of their caregiver and ultimately that there is something wrong with themselves at the core of their being.

Kids Will Do the Same    

Feelings are an essential part of human life. One way or another they will be seen, heard, and known. You choose---I can act it out or I can internalize manifestations, anxiety, depression, illness; or I can learn to talk out my feelings. As feelings are noticed, appreciated, acknowledged, embraced, tolerated, and expressed--- they begin to flow. Whatever you do, your kids will model until they learn they can make conscious choices like you can now that you are an adult.

Precious One    

One time I was driving along during a really tough day. I asked myself, my inner child, what do you need? What are you feeling? What would you like to hear from an ideal parent? This song is a message from an adult self to a sad, hurt little child self. What a wonderful message for a child to hear from their parent as well.

Good Night Song    

Creating a nighttime ritual is soothing and very helpful for a child to fall a sleep. Sometimes nighttime can be stressful for parents and children. Children may have concerns about not being able to quiet their thoughts, mind, emotions or how to soothe and regulate themselves. Most children create magical stories of the dark, and may have difficulty separating from the parent. They hate to miss out on the fun parents and others will have while they are asleep. Creating a time to read, cuddle, sing, talk, and connect before bedtime helps in the transition and is a gift for a child’s lifetime.