Dr. Beth's Compassionate Parenting Self-Assessment

Mirror/Mirror (Open-Ended Questions)

What you see in other people is often a direct reflection of how you see yourself. This "mirror" gives you insight into how you think and behave in the world, and how you react to what others think about and act towards you. The mirror allows you to identify, appreciate or heal any traits you like or don’t like about yourself. Below are some questions relating to this "mirroring" that can help you see the real you and how you can view and appreciate others.

What qualities, emotions or behaviors do you see in other people that you see in yourself? How does this make you feel about yourself?
What feelings, characteristics or actions do you see in others that you really dislike? Do you think there might be a part of you that possesses these same qualities?
If you can acknowledge that you exhibit some negative feelings or behaviors, how could this change your thoughts of other people? Would this change the perception you have of yourself?
Do you shut off certain feelings with other people? Do they do the same with you? What do you think the effect is of people closing off their feelings?
How does it feel when your teen/parent/someone else fully expresses with you how they’re feeling? What do you think are the benefits of full self-expression?
What is your self-image? Are you able to fully express to others who you truly are? Can you think of a positive experience you had where you expressed your feelings and it was okay?
How were strong, intense or 'negative' feelings handled by people you grew up with? What did your parents teach you about these feelings? How has it affected how you are today?
What is your teen’s/parent’s self-image? Is it similar to how you think about them? Is it similar to how you think about yourself?
What is your teen’s/parent’s image of you? Is this true for you? How does their image of you manifest itself in your daily life?
If your parent's/teen's/other person's image of you is not true for you, how could you get them to change their perception of you? How do you think they would behave towards you if they saw you differently? How would this benefit your life? If your parent’s/teen’s/other person’s image of you is not true for you, how could you get them to change their perception of you? How do you think they would behave towards you if they saw you differently? How would this benefit your life?
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